So as most of you know by now, we got the CVS back and our DAUGHTER's chromosomes matched up perfectly! I literally fell off the bed when Egg Basket told us the baby is a girl...I feel so blessed that I haven't stopped smiling for 3 days...now, for the record, I would have loved this baby if it were a boy too (and I really, really, believed it would be a boy), after all, I have a boy and I do not believe it is possible to love him more than I do, so another boy would have been wonderful too...BUT..in many ways, this makes me feel that our family is complete. We will have a new experience this time around and it is a bonus that my son really, really wanted a sister (never mind that it is because he doesn't want to share his Wii!) This is the first girl in 3 generations for the male side of my husband's family...Can you say Princess?
And perhaps more importantly, she is healthy. Although CVS is not a magic test, it does appear to cover most of the major issues that she could have had. As some of you know Baby Daddy and I were not in agreement as to what we would do if that test did not come back so nicely...so it is a huge sigh of relief that we do not have to have that conversation...
I also have to issue a MAJOR apology to Egg Basket (and her friend W) for ruining their surprise. Egg Basket knew before I did that the baby was a girl and was planning a special surprise to tell me, however I whined and complained about how anxious I was so much that she felt she had to tell me. So..I am sorry for ruining the surprise..but the truth is, I was pretty surprised when you told me anyway :) And a BIG thank you for holding on to that girl embryo! As Egg Basket has pointed out..she doesn't do anything half way!
The next major endeavor for me is that I am going to try to induce lactation. With some advice from my "angel" and some more luck, I am hoping to breastfeed my daughter when she gets here. I am speaking with a lactation consultant on Monday and hope to figure out a protocol that does not require me to take any estrogen elevating drugs...and then I am likely to start pumping..perhaps this will put to rest that annoying comment of "at least I get to drink" since I will freeze whatever milk I might get (although I do expect that will be awhile).
The minor endeavor will be decorating her nursery..I have never done that before..but I need to *nest* a bit...so I am thinking that somewhere around the 20th week I will start to set up her room...There is a Jewish tradition (old wives tale/superstition) that you don't bring anything into the house until the baby is born, but I think that I need to do this. It is therapeutic for me to feel that I am preparing and being part of this process. Plus- I can't wait to buy all the adorable girl stuff I have looked at longingly for the last 6 years!
Finally..in case you aren't smiling yet:
Me: I love you so much my sweet boy.
Sweet boy: Will you still love me when the baby comes?
Me: Of course..Daddy and I will love you always no matter what
Sweet boy: Well will you love me more than her?
Me: No, I will love you the same
Sweet boy: Well I think you should love me more because I was here first and I am older
Me: Well do you think Safta (grandma) loves Uncle J more than Daddy since he is older? or that she loves Daddy more than Uncle D since he is the youngest?
Sweet boy: No..that wouldn't be nice that she would love Uncle D the least..
Me: so it is the same..I will love you the same, but you will always be my best BOY
Sweet boy: Okay...(pause) but I still think you should love me more :)
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Whew! Hooray! Wonderful news. Can't imagine how thrilled you all must be.
ReplyDeleteI think decorating a nursery is going to be a blast and you deserve that joy! Rock the pink dude!
ReplyDeleteAww that's wonderful news!
ReplyDeleteMaybe you can tell him you loved him first.
ReplyDeleteYou may be aware of the Siblings Without Rivalry intro.... how would you feel if your husband brings new wife home: I still love you honey just as much as I ever did, but now I love this wife TOO.
I like the analogy of the candle, that when you light a new candle off that one, then you have more light without diminishing either of them.